There are lots of reasons as to why I work so hard, why I do the things I do,and why I want to do them.
But I also feel like a have a bigger underlying ‘why’ for everything I do, and I struggle to put it into words. It’s a feeling, a primal pull, a gut instinct, but I do wish I could put it into better words.
Sometimes it feels like I’m walking around in the darkness with a mysterious object in my hands, something I found along the way, but I can’t quite remember where, or maybe I always had it.
It feels like I’m walking around in the darkness, trying to feel this object and figure out what it is, while also just trying to survive in a world where I can’t see anything.
Each step gets me closer, but it drives me crazy! Can anyone relate?
You can listen to a lot of successful and influential people, and take away little bits from each, but there will always be one or two who really gave you what you needed to start doing some damage to your goals. The rest just created interest.
For me, one of the big players in my current mindset is Tim Grover.
For those of you who don’t know who he is, he spent a large chunk of his career coaching Michael Jordan and a few other big names. He focuses on the performance of your mind, and what it takes to be the absolute best you can be, because at the end of the day your mindset is everything.
His talk at 10X growth con set me on fire. I felt like he reached inside my head and unlocked a hidden door that I didn’t know existed, and I left with a clear head, laser focus, and rearing to go!
At the end of that day I bought a subscription to his online training programme ‘The Relentless System’, and it not only poured fuel on the fire, but has helped me to focus my mental energy, re-evaluate what’s working and not working for me with brutal honesty and act accordingly with zero regret. It taught me to let go of my mental baggage, stop overthinking, and start following my gut. You usually know in your gut what you should do, the rest is usually just noise.
Who are your top coaches? And how are they helping you? If you don’t know yet, keep looking until you find them!
I’m beginning to realise that the key to realise that the key to getting where I want to go may lie in letting go.
Letting go of the little things that aren’t directly connected to my dreams, and accepting that the rest of my life may not look or feel at all perfect. I have been soo caught up in messages from successful people about creating a culture and standard for yourself in all aspects of your life. But lately it occurred to me that if I just concentrated my efforts to detail while working on my dreams in order to succeed, that success while make room in my life to worry about the rest later. Because worrying about whether I get my washing done on schedule every Saturday on schedule each week sure wasn’t helping me focus on the important things.
More importantly, it opened up much larger and much more productive chunks of time where I could focus solely on working on my dreams, and GET SHIT done, rather than stopping and starting on lots of little things all day. In my eyes a whole Saturday focused on design or sewing up an idea is much more productive than housework, which could be slotted in elsewhere throughout the week.
I guess it’s about pioritising first while I’m still in a startup phase, and trying to do everything myself!
Do what works for you, listen to the advice of other’s but evaluate whether it’s appropriate for you and accept or reject at will. It’s your life, only you know what’s going to work best for you.
I’ve already posted today, but I saw today’s wordpress word prompt is ‘Rebel’, and I just couldn’t resist!
There have always been rules, both social or more formal laws. Rules put in place (in theory) to protect, organize, and assist the masses. You only need to stand up and question your immediate surroundings to realise that sometimes the rules can be more of a hinderance to real and positive change than a help, sometimes the rules are protecting the wrong people, and most of the time they don’t stop people who intend to do whatever they want, regardless of how many people they will hurt in the process.
When people are trying to bend or change the rules for a positive outcome, that’s when the magic happens…
Kerri Kasem was unable to visit her elderly father because his wife forbid it. Despite the fact that he also wanted to see her, the law says his wife had to give permission. Have you ever heard anything so strange? Does it make any sense at all?
Well obviously Kerri went to work and changed the law… That’s my kind of woman!
I challenge you to re-think some of the rules you are following. I hazard a guess that most of them are unwritten social rules. Find which ones are making you unhappy for no real reason other than “this is how we’ve always done it”, and dare to be different.
Stay unrelentlessly you,
This morning I watched a video on facebook, of the morning meeting held daily at Cardone Enterprises, and it hands-down seemed like the right way for a company to start the day.
The shared the successes of the day before, they congratulated each other at the top of their lungs, and sang happy birthday a couple of people in the team who have made it through another year.
The energy was positive and supportive, and I have no doubt an environment like that breeds the confidence and drive that it takes to work in a competitive sales team, or really any business.
But if like me, you still work for other people, and your small upstart business is still Party of One, how does that help?
I’ve been mulling it over, and definitely think there are ways to adapt this morning strategy to a solo-preneur lifestyle! Things like:
- Teaming up with another solo-preneur to boost each other, bounce ideas, and hold each other accountable when motivation is lacking
- Morning meeting with your family – if you can swing this, they may appreciate the extra time with you, and have a better understanding of what you’re doing (which can definitely help if you’re grinding the rest of the day and night away, everywhere else but home)
- A morning gratitude journal
- Convince your boss of the productive benefits of doing this in your office, or hell, just start doing it and let people join in
- Hell, if you’re truly flying solo put on the music that makes your feel most powerful, look at your stats from the day before, jump around, dance, sing, celebrate your own successes from the day before
Any other ideas? Do you have your own energy-boosting morning routine?
I left fashion school because I didn’t think there was much left in it for me, and I felt like I was creatively STARVING, so it makes sense that I should jump head long in to my next creative adventure!
I want to create amazing over-the-top pieces, so I thought it was only natural to look into some local theater groups… and found one! It also just so happened that they were having a sign up night a few nights after I messaged them, so I got to go and start from the very beginning of the show process with everyone else. Some would say the stars are aligned!
I joined the group thinking that I could be involved with costumes, dressing, makeup and any other backstage bits that need to be done for the show, and may have left with my arm slightly twisted into filling a small role… it is yet to be determined what that will look like…
Regardless of what type of role it turns out to be, I am terrified! But I know I need to get used to the stage if I ever want to perform musically at least! Plus confidence under pressure and on stage never hurt for overall personal development…
The show must go on!
I feel like this is a really powerful question to ask yourself.
What task would you have to achieve, hill you would have to climb, etc. Before you could be completely satisfied and ready to kick that bucket for good?
A friend asked this recently, and it got me thinking… As a quick answer, I rattled off:
1. Showing at the World of Wearable Arts Festival
2. Hold my own dream fashion show
3. Visit every country
4. Cuddle a sloth
5. Learn from some of the top yogi’s in India
6. Meditate with monks
7. Start a foundation which empowers the unempowered
I’m 100% sure there are other things to add to this list, and that I’d never actually be satisfied anyway hahaha, but it’s a good thought exercise.
What is on your bucket list?