Letting go to get success

I’m beginning to realise that the key to realise that the key to getting where I want to go may lie in letting go.

Letting go of the little things that aren’t directly connected to my dreams, and accepting that the rest of my life may not look or feel at all perfect. I have been soo caught up in messages from successful people about creating a culture and standard for yourself in all aspects of your life. But lately it occurred to me that if I just concentrated my efforts to detail while working on my dreams in order to succeed, that success while make room in my life to worry about the rest later. Because worrying about whether I get my washing done on schedule every Saturday on schedule each week sure wasn’t helping me focus on the important things.

More importantly, it opened up much larger and much more productive chunks of time where I could focus solely on working on my dreams, and GET SHIT done, rather than stopping and starting on lots of little things all day. In my eyes a whole Saturday focused on design or sewing up an idea is much more productive than housework, which could be slotted in elsewhere throughout the week.

I guess it’s about pioritising first while I’m still in a startup phase, and trying to do everything myself!

Do what works for you, listen to the advice of other’s but evaluate whether it’s appropriate for you and accept or reject at will. It’s your life, only you know what’s going to work best for you.

Laveena

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22nd Feb 2018: 10X Growth Conference (Day 1)

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Dear Diary,

It’s official, it was 100% worth all the work to get here. I learnt A LOT today, from several speakers, and met a bunch of people.

It’s soo nice to meet people who just ‘get it’.

They get why I want more, they understand the hunger, why it doesn’t make sense to anyone else, and I don’t have to explain it. They just just know. THANK GOD.

I came away with a bunch of notes with to-do lists scribbled into the margins for after the conference! Although some are easier than others since I was writing in the dark, but hey, all the more reason to get started on actioning them while they’re fresh and I can figure out what I was writing…

At the end of the day, there was a performance by the one and only Flo Rida, but I just couldn’t sit around and listen to music, I’ve done enough of that already… I had a to-do list to tackle! I’ve managed to chip away at a few things, and after writing this entry, I am going to tackle a couple more before doing some yoga and meditation, and getting some decent rest before another epic day.

Stay crazy,

 

Laveena

Finding my Mentor

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Since I graduated from University, I’ve been a little lost. I had a rough idea of what I wanted to do with my life (save the planet, make music, cuddle animals all day, make the world a better place for everyone and everything… you know, the usual), but I felt like I had to pick a path and focus my energy in a particular area.

I felt that if I wanted to be taken seriously and be hired into the corporate environment that I would have to conform to that mould, and after finally figuring out who I was, I wasn’t too keen to be put on the “corporate image leash”. On the other hand, I felt that if I chose the creative and humanitarian route, I would never be able to support myself financially, and I would miss the technical challenges that would have come from pursuing my environmental career.

I was in a constant state of hesitation, and I ended up “going where the wind took me, as long as it was vaguely related to what I wanted”. While this hasn’t been a terrible misstep, and I have learned a lot along the way, I have indeed missed the technical challenges as predicted, and have found that after I have “earned my bread” I have less time than I would like to pursue creative and humanitarian endeavors.

I tried to talk to those around me, but found that their “advice” was heavily laced with their own fears and insecurities about what could go wrong. I needed to talk to someone who was out there chasing their dreams off the beaten path, crushing it, and would give me their true unbiased opinion. I needed to “reach up” as Grant Cardone would say.

You can’t reach your full potential by holding on to where you are – Grant Cardone

Yesterday I reached out to someone that fit this bill, I’ll call her S. I’ve always admired her for creativity, the way she has worked tirelessly to build her brand, and the way she has carried herself and pushed forward despite criticism, nasty tactics, and trying personal times.

In a surprisingly short conversation, the things I wanted, and what I needed to do, became as clear as day. As is often the case, deep down, I had always known what I need to do, I just needed someone to ask the right questions, and get me to say it out loud. It seems ridiculous to type it out, but it’s true, and I now have a plan of action. Today I walked into work with an almost fanatical smile on my face, a renewed spring in my step, and the weight of the world off my shoulders. Now the real work begins… taking action.

Finding the right mentor for you

Interested in finding your own mentor? Here’s a few tips:

  1. Decide what you want from them – do you want to learn the tricks of the trade from one of the best in your industry? Or do you just want to be able to bounce ideas of someone who has similar values, and can hold you accountable?
  2. Research potential mentors to make sure they match up with what you’ve decided you are looking for
  3. Ask them! But be honest with what you are looking for, and respect their right to say no.
  4. Establish some expectations to avoid any frustrations and disappointments (e.g. would they prefer you email any questions through so they can respond where they can?  Or would they prefer a phone call? How regularly would you like to meet with them?)
  5. Be flexible and respectful of their time – show up on time, let them know if you can’t make it to a scheduled meeting (with more than 5 minutes notice!), and be respectful of their advice and opinions (you don’t have to agree with their opinion to be respectful)

Have a fantastic day guys! Go out and crush it!

 

Laveena

Growth Spurt #2: Deep Work

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Review of the Week: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport (on Audiobook)

Another audiobook this week! It was not narrated by the author, which was disappointing, but luckily the narrator (Jeff Bottoms), was easy enough to listen to, and kept me engaged… moving on…

Deep Work: Rules for Success in a Distracted World, focuses on the benefits of focusing solely on the task at hand. This will seem obvious to most of you, but it was more than that, they looked right into the research behind it. Brain function, studies of various lengths and modes of deep work, and how deep work can be worked into daily life. I don’t know about you, but I like to see a decent amount of research to back up a theory and push back against my skepticism and I was encouraged by what I heard!

These days we are constantly “plugged in”, we’re contactable at all times, with demands for our time and attention. Facebook wants you to wish someone a happy birthday, twitter wants you to check out a tweet that is trending, you boss wants an update on your work… the list goes on. The book discusses how these distractions deplete our mental capacity over the course of a day, and sap us of our ability to give our best effort in our work, even after the distractions are removed.

Now, not all of us can afford to withdraw from society and its distractions for months at a time, and emerge with the next heart-moving . Fortunately, the author has provided several options that (I think) can be adopted, depending on what will work best for you, what time you may have free, and how much your career and goals will benefit from deep work.

My final rating: 9/10!

Check out the full review on youtube.

 

Interesting Blog of the Week

Saeedmirfattah.com really struck a chord with me this week.

“Companies have strategic plans, why not you?”

I could NOT agree more! If you don’t know the underlying purpose to everything you do (in other words, your mission statement), and you don’t have a plan of attack outlined, how exactly do you expect to achieve it?!

Personally, I have my own mission statement which underlies my goals and my daily movements, and I remind myself of this statement on a daily basis when I write down my goals and visualise my achievements. I see this as my own brand, business, and my driver.

Have a look!

https://saeedmirfattah.com/2017/05/01/how-to-create-your-own-personal-strategic-plan-a-k-a-personal-development-plan/

Quote of the Week

“At the centre of your being, you have the answer: you know who you are and what you want” – Lao Tzu

Have a fantastic week this wee! Crush it,

 

Laveena