You can listen to a lot of successful and influential people, and take away little bits from each, but there will always be one or two who really gave you what you needed to start doing some damage to your goals. The rest just created interest.
For me, one of the big players in my current mindset is Tim Grover.
For those of you who don’t know who he is, he spent a large chunk of his career coaching Michael Jordan and a few other big names. He focuses on the performance of your mind, and what it takes to be the absolute best you can be, because at the end of the day your mindset is everything.
His talk at 10X growth con set me on fire. I felt like he reached inside my head and unlocked a hidden door that I didn’t know existed, and I left with a clear head, laser focus, and rearing to go!
At the end of that day I bought a subscription to his online training programme ‘The Relentless System’, and it not only poured fuel on the fire, but has helped me to focus my mental energy, re-evaluate what’s working and not working for me with brutal honesty and act accordingly with zero regret. It taught me to let go of my mental baggage, stop overthinking, and start following my gut. You usually know in your gut what you should do, the rest is usually just noise.
Who are your top coaches? And how are they helping you? If you don’t know yet, keep looking until you find them!
I’m beginning to realise that the key to realise that the key to getting where I want to go may lie in letting go.
Letting go of the little things that aren’t directly connected to my dreams, and accepting that the rest of my life may not look or feel at all perfect. I have been soo caught up in messages from successful people about creating a culture and standard for yourself in all aspects of your life. But lately it occurred to me that if I just concentrated my efforts to detail while working on my dreams in order to succeed, that success while make room in my life to worry about the rest later. Because worrying about whether I get my washing done on schedule every Saturday on schedule each week sure wasn’t helping me focus on the important things.
More importantly, it opened up much larger and much more productive chunks of time where I could focus solely on working on my dreams, and GET SHIT done, rather than stopping and starting on lots of little things all day. In my eyes a whole Saturday focused on design or sewing up an idea is much more productive than housework, which could be slotted in elsewhere throughout the week.
I guess it’s about pioritising first while I’m still in a startup phase, and trying to do everything myself!
Do what works for you, listen to the advice of other’s but evaluate whether it’s appropriate for you and accept or reject at will. It’s your life, only you know what’s going to work best for you.
I feel like this is a really powerful question to ask yourself.
What task would you have to achieve, hill you would have to climb, etc. Before you could be completely satisfied and ready to kick that bucket for good?
A friend asked this recently, and it got me thinking… As a quick answer, I rattled off:
1. Showing at the World of Wearable Arts Festival
2. Hold my own dream fashion show
3. Visit every country
4. Cuddle a sloth
5. Learn from some of the top yogi’s in India
6. Meditate with monks
7. Start a foundation which empowers the unempowered
I’m 100% sure there are other things to add to this list, and that I’d never actually be satisfied anyway hahaha, but it’s a good thought exercise.
What is on your bucket list?
I started coughing a couple days after I got back from the U.S., and over a week later I’m still going, but that’s not even the worst of it part for me.
The moment I sounded sick, the naysayers felt vindicated, and didn’t hesitate to add their “I told you so’s” and warnings that it would only get worse.
Here’s the thing… PEOPLE GET SICK… especially when they travel from New Zealand to the West Coast of the U.S. and back within a week and a half. Long travel is stressful on the body, especially when there is turbulence the whole trip, making it very hard to sleep.
I hardly ever get sick working 80 hour weeks, but as soon as I take time off to go overseas… BAM, virus. I was already sick when I went back to work…
I call this ridiculousness sick shaming. You get sick, then people want to point the finger at you and say you brought it on yourself. It makes them feel better about their decision not to chase their own dreams.
Even if I did think that this cough was from working too much (which I don’t), I’d say it’s a small price to pay to start living my dreams by the end of this year rather than in 10 years time (or ever if you want to play it by the naysayers rulebook). It was worth every penny and cough to go to Las Vegas, network with a bunch of equally motivated people, and learn from those who have achieved the things I want.
Instead of just thinking about my most promising business idea of late, I decided to jump in, start sending out queries, and get the ball rolling! Even the simple act of probing manufacturers for information made me soo excited/anxious I feel a little sick!… In a good way?
There’s also the doubt though… is my idea good enough? Is it any better than anyone else’s? Will it stand out from the crowd, or is my idea just not as exciting as I thought it was? Am I overestimating my talent?
Then there’s the other side… What’s the worst that can happen? I have to troll through manufacturers getting samples on my own dime, potentially waste a bunch of the few spare hours I have, and have to deal with knowing that there are some that will get satisfaction out of my failure?
My rational side convinced me that I could potentially waste my time and money in my spare time, and cop negativity from people regardless of what I’m doing, so I might as well ignore my emotional side and jump in… I’m soo nervous! It’s such small potatoes in the great scheme of things, but I have to start somewhere!
It would seem fitting that this entry would come today, and maybe it’s just the vibes all around… but I have fallen in love…
With CAD software..
I had my very first fashion industry software class today which was a completely fresh introduction for me, and my-oh-my you dark little horse CAD.
The ideas for what I can create, now that I’m learning how to do it, are ENDLESS.
If you find yourself feeling a little left out without a Valentine this year, try falling in love with your dreams and your potential ♥
If you’re not living your dream, there’s a chance that at some point you’ve thought that if only there were more hours in the day, you’d still have plenty of time to spend on what you love after you get home from your day job.
Out of interest a did a little maths this morning…
If you spend:
- 8 hours sleeping, and
- 8 hours working to pay your bills
You still have 8 hours leftover to spend working on your dreams…
Interesting isn’t it?
So what have you been spending this time doing? Eating? Watching TV? Perhaps even travelling to work if you live quite a distance away?
What of these things could you do without, or reconfigure to maximize your free time to spend on your dreams?
Could you learn more about your craft with books or podcasts while you travel? Could you better plan your meals so that minimal time, effort and thought power is wasted here? What can you cook over a week that takes 15 minutes or less? Does it really have to be a fully cooked meal with all the trimmings?
Everyone is different, it’s up to you to determine what can stay, and what should absolutely go!