I’m beginning to realise that the key to realise that the key to getting where I want to go may lie in letting go.
Letting go of the little things that aren’t directly connected to my dreams, and accepting that the rest of my life may not look or feel at all perfect. I have been soo caught up in messages from successful people about creating a culture and standard for yourself in all aspects of your life. But lately it occurred to me that if I just concentrated my efforts to detail while working on my dreams in order to succeed, that success while make room in my life to worry about the rest later. Because worrying about whether I get my washing done on schedule every Saturday on schedule each week sure wasn’t helping me focus on the important things.
More importantly, it opened up much larger and much more productive chunks of time where I could focus solely on working on my dreams, and GET SHIT done, rather than stopping and starting on lots of little things all day. In my eyes a whole Saturday focused on design or sewing up an idea is much more productive than housework, which could be slotted in elsewhere throughout the week.
I guess it’s about pioritising first while I’m still in a startup phase, and trying to do everything myself!
Do what works for you, listen to the advice of other’s but evaluate whether it’s appropriate for you and accept or reject at will. It’s your life, only you know what’s going to work best for you.
I feel like this is a really powerful question to ask yourself.
What task would you have to achieve, hill you would have to climb, etc. Before you could be completely satisfied and ready to kick that bucket for good?
A friend asked this recently, and it got me thinking… As a quick answer, I rattled off:
1. Showing at the World of Wearable Arts Festival
2. Hold my own dream fashion show
3. Visit every country
4. Cuddle a sloth
5. Learn from some of the top yogi’s in India
6. Meditate with monks
7. Start a foundation which empowers the unempowered
I’m 100% sure there are other things to add to this list, and that I’d never actually be satisfied anyway hahaha, but it’s a good thought exercise.
What is on your bucket list?
As I follow my heart to what is undoubtedly a more and more creative calling, a realm of possibility seems to grow exponentially with each step.
The ideas and opportunities really are endless. For the first time in my life I feel like I am only limited by my own imagination and drive (although some of this is possibly also due to my efforts to learn from as much as possible from as many successful people as possible, including their mindset).
Regardless of the why, it is both overwhelming and INCREDIBLY EXCITING! The anticipation is killing me! I am like a pot boiling on high on the stove (almost) unchecked.
I say almost because a girl’s still gotta pay her bills… And unless said girl is particularly good at her chosen practice, it is unlikely she will be able to pay her bills with any profits from it, and need to take time away from their passion to make some moolah. Being the ‘late bloomer’ that I am, I find myself in the unlikely category…. The frustration is soo real but soo common! I get it, there are soo many of us in this boat, creative and otherwise.
Gary Vee says the key to success is patience and hard work. Let’s hope so! Cause I’m all in!
Can you relate? How do you deal with it?
Stay hungry 🖤
They say that when you’re outside of your comfort zone, that’s when you grow. This morning I realised that sometimes my comfort zone is in finishing something, even if I don’t think it’s working, just in case it does.
Yesterday I went into school thinking I should finish the last 2 months of classes, because although I had doubts about whether the remainder of the content was going to benefit me, I optimistically thought to myself that there would probably be a couple extra things I would pick up and take with me into future ventures, so I should give it a shot. Then something happened in the middle of my first class for the day.
As I sat there I realised that I was staying because I thought it ‘was the right thing to do’. Right for who? I don’t need the certificate at the end, and I have a million creative ideas building up inside of me that I could be learning about and experimenting with, that are more related to the (less mainstream) path of fashion and design that I gravitate towards.
Staying until the end was the ‘comfortable’ thing to do. I was staying to tick a box that society had given me, when I had already ticked my own (to learn as much as I could about fashion design and construction), as we had covered all of these things in the course already.
In the past I’ve had an awful habit of staying in bad situations, or situations that were a complete waste of my time, just because I wasn’t 100% sure that leaving was the right choice. It is a habit I know I need to break. There is NEVER ANY WAY OF KNOWING what the right choice is! I need to start listening to my intuition, and trusting my gut, and dealing with the fact that sometimes, I may just be wrong.
I realised that I needed to pull the plug and get moving to the next chapter of my creative journey ASAP, starting with digging out all of my half-finished projects in my workroom at home, and working up to a very exciting workshop with an established local couture designer in about a months time!! Soo freaking excited! More on that later 😉
Yesterday I woke up pretty tired. I didn’t feel like making an effort, and as I stood there struggling to even decide what to wear to work, I realised that I was heading for an end-of-week mini funk (and not the fun kind). So in order to head this self-destructive and unproductive mode off at the pass, I decided to make double effort. I put on my most chic dress and heels, I curled my hair, and left the house ready dominate the day.
I liken this to when you’ve just been dumped and decide to go and get your hair done and hit the town instead of wallowing in your stretchy pants in front of Netflix. This method of picking up your mood is clearly tried and tested! As Maria Sharapova said, “when you look good, you feel good. Confidence with what you’re wearing is very important. If you feel good, you will always perform your best without worrying about anything”
Go and dominate your own day!
After a motivating discussion on goals and struggles with a friend I got home from work on Day 79 ready to roar into guitar practice and tackle some dress design. By the time my partner got home from a friends house to hit the hay, there was fabric everywhere through the house and I was muttering to myself about measurements and completely lost in my own world.
It was a successful and productive night though, managing to overcome an amateur sewing problem I was struggling with, and applying for a couple more weekend jobs to fill the incoming gap in my extra income, with my current weekend gig slowing down for the year. Got to keep that pipeline full!
Stay positive! Stay productive!